gender defender

we're all alone
on the stage tonight
 

g e n d e r   d e f e n d e r 

an overview of gender discrimination

in modern society 

little girls love their Daddies
even if they do bad things 
 

he's a monster

it's obvious that he is a misogynist and under fire
he has even openly admitted that he enjoys 
inflicting pain on women for sexual pleasure
and so, if they just happen to be there
wrong place at the wrong time
then I guess it's their problem
isn't it

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predators prevail
 

millions of men abuse women every day 

because they can - legally
even religiously justified

and so

this incredulous incarceration?
all temporary - water
under the bridge
soon to be
invalid

because now her credibility is in question

she gets what she deserves
what she has coming
to her 

I mean ok - bottom line
 most women who are sexually assaulted
were asking for it in the first place

period

 


 

sex is almost always on his terms

because men are meant to be

in control - and get to be
just that

women - submission
quietly and all under the radar
ah shit - new rules - WTF
relief arrives - ah yes! 

"not guilty" - a verdict pronounced

by a judge in the Canadian legal system 

having found flaws, ok "inconsistencies"

in the (so-called) victim's testimony in a court of law

limp and languid - desperately dangling

hanging onto calm resolve

their apparent confusion
targeted - seeking emancipation
facts left out - shame
now lies

all she really wanted
was to be loved - going along with it
because it's what he wants
and she has no idea
what's going on

we know all our lines so well - aha

we've said them so many times

 

sometimes there are juries made up of men and women
who compose a verdict based on the evidence
transcending the barriers and reaching up
not this time - nope

one male judge presiding deciding

 it's an unspoken phenomenon
ok, behind closed doors
 or in a smelly locker room
after their ritual squash game
2 guys convalescing

quietly
   

women (essentially) are liars 
colluding in sin, in defiance 
in reaction - wrongdoing becomes
gender specific yet again

she doesn't get to do that, get away with it
can't be trusted

she becomes permanently damaged

and yet he now is free to roam to continue 
doing what he does - because he can now 
free to do whatever he chooses 
back to black

you see, this isn't a man problem

it's a woman problem

ok, I was there but this has nothing to do with me 
this is all her bullshit

 I mean - come on

she deserves it - she had it coming to her
can't you see that

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in 1968 my Mom lost a custody battle with my Dad

because the courts judged her incompetent

in her inability to raise us properly - ok

Dad hired an expensive (pit bull) lawyer in London
Mom (having no money) hired a lame local Woodstock lawyer

deer in the headlights

she only gave us up to him because she was sick (1966)
cancer - no choice/options - recovering later
wanting us back 

she even has a steady job - better now
and we really wanted to be with her again
municipal social workers coming to our school
asking us/me - telling them of my (our) wish
to go back to her

nadda - not an option
 
not a chance - the courts judged her callously
he took us away from her to punish us/her
for even considering leaving him
more than anything

he didn't love us
like she did

   

my younger brother and I had no say in it

just kids - so nadda - not possible

oh, and let's not forget ...
she was fornicating with another man in the "marriage"

and there is undeniable proof of that

so was he (only multiplied) 


none of that matters anyway

because he is a man and she

is a woman

it's like he has the 'right' to do that

and she does not

promiscuity is a word in his dictionary, not hers
and shame is a word in her dictionary, not his
  
"get over here"
now watch and learn - if in fact - she actually comes?
well there you go

case closed  

Dad didn't beat Mom (physically) - I was there
even though he really wanted to beat her to a pulp

didn't happen, BUT he abused her emotionally

leaving her for weeks alone

with next to no money - with two kids

the word, "terrorism" has far too many ramifications
5 bucks for a pack of smokes - you can do this
maybe some groceries - weiners and beans
yet again  

and when he came home

there was no interest in her, because he had his fill

in the days previous - "so shut the fuck up"
and leave me alone to drink
and jerk off in peace 

traveling salesmen

doing what men do after hours

in some bar in nowhere Ontario

while she waited for something

that she wasn't allowed

to have

Dad was a barfly who picked up lonely women

and fucked them because that's what men did

in the 60's, 70's, 80's, 90's - even still

oh wait, I have no real "proof" of this
herein lies the heart of the problem
and even if I did, as a woman
presenting it

? 

not a chance in hell 

out of sight - out of mind
what does it matter?

nothing has changed since

oh yes - there are many many
mean spirited women in the world too
even evil and yes, there are 2 sides
to every story

women in multitudes 
who would eat any man for lunch
if they had the chance to
so maybe, I'm out to lunch here 

my theory is a simple one - and that is this ...

there is a good reason why they are like that 
they weren't born that way - it just happened
they came to be this way for reasons
that we may never know 
  

"so who do you think you are anyway?

you don't get to be anything

because you are nothing"

I remember him saying that

g e n d e r   d e f e n d e r 

you deserve nothing more than this

this is your destiny - your neglect - is real
your inappropriate behaviour

in your inability to pay proper attention

to me


we're all alone
on the stage tonight

 

We pledge ourselves to liberate all our people from the continuing bondage of poverty, deprivation, suffering, gender and other discrimination.
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