Thursday, 24 October 2024

DIWALI 24





D I W A L I  2 4
a celebration of India & the world
it's all about relevance


 most indians live vicariously
through one of their 
bollywood idols











feels like an invitation
there's an innocence and an audience
a new dance

In everything & everyone living here.
The Diwali is our Halloween & Christmas
rolled into one 3 day celebration in India
 now synchronized - this year, both Oct 31 - Nov 02.

2024 is an eclipse
an oddity








D I W A L I  2 4
a celebration of India & the world


volume up - 1080p
lights out/candles
recommended






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Arriving late in Mohali Punjab on Saturday Oct. 25, 2008;
waking up on the eve of Diwali in black/red sheets, Majestic Hotel
after sleeping for 2 days - extra strength jetlag.
late afternoon - only a few more hours
of daylight

Shah Rukh Khan on the TV post shower.
My first realization about India
Idols are everything

Still wet, drying my hair w/a towel.
I'm thinking ... holy shit, Bollywood rocks.
Lanterns, fireworks, firecrackers outside
downstairs, coffee at 5pm - almost dark.

Stepping out, warm (feels like late august) - humid;
orange lights, smells like curry & smoke - dogs everywhere ...


Non stop - 3 days;
incredible


Yes sir, black, gold seal














optimized for night vision




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assembled in photoshop, logic audio & final cut

featuring the Roland System 8


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Bahram Pourmand



Karunesh





visual/dance

Garba Fusion | Dholida X Jhume Re Gori X Chogada
Choreography - Sushil Patil
Music Mix & Edit by - Jim Lamarche
Costumes - Khushboo Gupta
Video by - Harikesh Kori
















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D I W A L I  2 4
a celebration of India & the world













Tuesday, 15 October 2024

WINDOW MEMORIAL



Till Death Do Us Part - an end of life predicament

in a remembrance of that which should have been done differently











Situation on the Ground


Life is difficult - now this? A recent trip to the doctor after tests where he tells you have cancer and it’s terminal. How long? Months, maybe a year. You’ve been tired for a long time, realizing something wasn’t right, thus the tests. Approaching 70 and it’s been a good run. Thinking, maybe it’s time to check out soon. Curing it doesn’t even enter the mind in a numbing sense of aloneness never felt before. 


Returning 3 days later for the obligatory ‘follow up’.


Of course your doctor has a ‘plan’ - you know, this agenda that doctors have … earnestly suggesting that with the right ’treatment’ there’s a chance that your life can be saved. Yay! With a couple of rounds of chemo and maybe some radiation, the cancer (now stage 4) might, just might go into remission. He is 'highly recommending' it quietly knowing there's a very slim chance of success but the script was already prepared (arrangements made) so. Worst case scenario is that you’ll get another 4-6 months of additional torture, I mean LIFE; the treatment slowing down the spread. Wow! Sounds great; I mean … that’s good news right?


A reason to feel just that little bit better. Smile.


All we ever wanted was to be relevant. Wanting our lives to mean something - sharing it with someone who loves us - having children … good job, nice home/car - a comfortable life. Ok scoring pretty good on most counts and getting that it would be nice to go out quietly; with dignity without pain. I mean, if death is inevitable and I’m old, it only makes sense that it should be as easy as possible right? 


Wrong. 











Loved ones are torn. “You’ve got to FIGHT this” is the common response. Like fighting it is going to fix it. All very entertaining and all very predictable. The world has a plan - that you’ll live regardless of what happens (and you really don’t have a say). The stress, the expectations and all the knee-jerk reactions just make it way worse. Suddenly this is not about my life but more about everyone else's.



The Rear View


The end of life is a mishmash of religious dogma suggesting that our lives ultimately belong to some higher power, medical chivalry with endless codes and procedures; strict rules & prescriptions on how our prognosis should be dealt with. What is probably the most disturbing, is the ongoing desperation that we humans ruthlessly maintain - to squeeze just one more day out of life regardless of how difficult it is. You OWE yourself that! What? Really?? It’s a universal narrative made up by those in charge; most of whom have never really had any experience with death themselves but since they know better, we just need to comply. Doctors, lawyers, clergymen/priests and esp. family really need you to stretch this out as long as humanly possible (even if it kills you). Why? Because that’s what we do!


Ok, when do I start the chemo? Well, scheduling delays and a backlog. We’ll ’try’ to get you started the first round in 3 weeks. Right. I have stage 4 cancer with months to live and they’re going to start my chemo in 3 weeks? That should be the first hint that this is all a very bad idea BUT it’s the ONLY chance of survival and EVERYBODY is insisting I try so … ok. ‘If you say so’.



For Thine is the Kingdom


Ten weeks later, results of the first round of chemotherapy come in and it’s not good news. Hair has fallen out and this stupid oxygen tube in my face 24/7. Too weak to even think about going out and lugging the tank around behind me. Can’t eat, sleep or shower/bath, having lost 30 pounds BUT maybe, just maybe we’ll get it on the second round of chemo and some radiation therapy for dessert. You CAN do this!  


Developments in Medical Assistance in Dying (MAID) have come a long way in the last 10 years. Imagine drinking 2 small cups of liquid, laying back and falling asleep, deeper & deeper & deeper until your heart stops 10 minutes later. Jesus. That actually sounds pretty damn favourable right about now. Thinking it’s time to investigate that. Well no. Your Doctor telling you that a formal application can’t be submitted until all treatments are over and with chemo round 2 starting tomorrow, a MAID app is NOT an option for at least 10 more weeks now. Then there’s a 4 week exploratory period followed by a 6-8 week waiting period. 


The incremental agony - all there to support a system that has no idea what's really going on and all because 'hanging on for dear life' is how we roll. How it's always been done. For thine is the kingdom, the power and the glory, forever and ever ... amen.














Epilogue


It should be noted that many cancers are caught early enough that modern medical treatments work, eradicating the metastasis and even bringing about full remission, leaving those originally diagnosed free to live long, productive lives after. That said, being diagnosed w/stage 4 cancer at 70 is a time to think independently, knowing it’s only going to prolong the pain and suffering by seeking treatment for something that is too late to treat. Saying no thank you is always an option. An easier earlier departure is often best (even though it is never suggested or recommended).


Despite the clamouring for control, the kicking, screaming, clutching and resistance from all those who think they know what’s best for you, everyone facing elimination should have the right (and support) to shut it all down in minutes (no waiting, delays or excuses). Like shutting a light switch off. 


Over and out.






for Pansy Edith Batho (Pat Miller)

April 16, 1932 - July 29, 2004













https://www.ontario.ca/page/medical-assistance-dying-and-end-life-decisions


















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Monday, 14 October 2024

STAND BY YOUR MAN



girls get a raw deal

 it's a mans world
"get over it"



S T A N D  B Y  Y O U R  M A N




  


that's what I told my daughter today
sitting at the bar eating brunch - while she works
at "Insomnia" on Bloor in Toronto - how appropriate
having slept little - she's a soldier
always tired - why?

through the hardware of a bustling crowd
all the modern devices on display
a mixture of truly cosmopolitan men and women
an all so perfect, multi-cultural blend 
obviously very awake and yet, all so pre-occupied
pretending to be normal
appropriate music at just the right volume
this food and drink - good - life is good

looking forward at her in between bites
softening for a moment
in between her ongoing recoil - driven by her craft
staying - on course
it hurts still

she's such a warrior princess
thinking - I was blessed
she's "rising to the occasion" nonetheless

it's a default position - in an ugly tangle
she's grieving the passing of a relationship
and a man who hurt her - her boyfriend of almost a year

that's what I told her - so called "fatherly advice"
shitty deal girl - get with the program

get over it
(from Dad's mouth to mine)









girls are poisoned coming in
at a young age - and I'm part of that

bombarded by weapons of mass construction
victims of our ancestral karma 
all so meticulously choreographed by men
seeds that are planted in misinformation - incubation - masturbation
into numbness - in a routine mission that fails - yet again
 abort - "next" ...

ok, there are always the fruits from a good harvest
and that simple sermon delivered by a good male soul
at Sunday mass - all in good faith 
but it's never enough

women are programmed to give and take
in a pre-meditated ritual
that deceives and destroys

the spirit is compromised and the water becomes contaminated
all part of gods plan?  I'm questioning that tonight

and so dear friends
welcome back to my mishap in the making
 an ongoing exercise in redemption
delivered with hope and optimism

and yet with caution



S T A N D  B Y  Y O U R  M A N






Bonnie and Clyde


it started early - from the banishment of Hildegard Von Bingen
from the church - for writing words
and making music - for speaking up 
to a lost and alone Anne Frank in Amsterdam during WW2
just wondering what is going on here?
the insanity that surrounds the world - what's this?

it surfaces in crimes of passion and broken promises
what happened Daddy?  why does this hurt so much?
why are you so mean?

get over it


self esteem erodes
deviant distractions are devised
in a concocted contingency contagion
bravely bred - in a silent science

returning to our secret place 
a counter-measure that we didn't want to exercise
but have to now ... out of necessity

it continues


the holocaust was just a beginning
in the feminine decomposition - the decay smells rotten - oh btw ...

"do you think i'm pretty?"
rate me on a scale from 1 - 10
on the internet


rate my face




Anne Frank in Amsterdam - 1942



hijabs in high heels - hot
i love Square One - shopping mall - Mississauga
high tension hypocrisy
on any given day

international ramifications
in a history of violence
enough said

ok, it's all about the presentation
it's not about who you are
no, it's not about what you bring to the table
it's not about your feelings, desires or your fears
it's not about your beliefs or your ambitions

none of that









no my dear ... it's all about your faith
in a modern masculine modality that you have invested in
 your destiny - the circus show
 that we are all so entertained by in the media
by the displacement of power, repression and perception
the pasteurized poison
served up clean
and "neat"

in our given - inherited hypocrisy 
embedded in our religion and our philosophy
just "shut - the fuck - up"


just get over it






 you are nothing

you are only worth something ...
if you become something - in my image
and only if you present yourself accordingly

there are rules in place
follow them my dear, and you will be rewarded
break the rules? - and you will be punished
that's how it works


bend over ... you're going to like this







Karla Homolka and Paul Bernardo



just do as I say and it will be ok
i know you want it - i know you want to be ah ... loved
so just  - do this

get the girl


"then after you're finished?  we need a hammer
and garbage bags - Home Depot - for the wreckage
you're part of this now"

just do as you're told

 and it will all be ok - trust me


girls are afraid - and so they should be!
of being cast aside by Daddy - yep - how it works
and Mommy who follows Daddy 
because she's told to

punishment hurts
none of us wants that - and yet, here we go again
it's just another night 
in relapse

get me off




Tori Stafford, Michael Rafferty and Terri-Lynn Mclintic


 
just lure her into the car
after school

I want her young - and pretty - 
na, you don't have it in you
to actually do this - to bring me what I want
you don't have the guts

so just do it - bring me what I want
or you don't get that special surprise that I promised you

this happened in my hometown - Woodstock
in 2009 - I lived there as a kid
clueless









Tori was raped and murdered
by a ruptured couple

for those who have little girls
just love them

tell them that they are special and that they are loved

hold them like they are our only hope
for a better world and a better future


for our girls


he doesn't love you - the same way
that you love him













S T A N D  B Y  Y O U R  M A N





"sometimes its hard to be a woman
giving all your love to just one man"






dedicated to Tori Stafford - 2001 - 2009
Woodstock Ontario